Recently I’ve found myself asking a new question to my children when they object – “But I wasn’t trying to ________!” (Fill in the blank with: hit him, break that, run around the house screaming, etc.) I have started turning the phrase around on them and asking “What WERE you trying to do?” They especially dislike this because usually it proves my point that they are being disobedient in some way. For example: They’ve been asked to play quietly while I’m on the phone, but suddenly there is a full 3-ring circus going on. When I get off the phone I address the situation. A child will inevitably pipe up with “But I wasn’t trying to be loud!” This is where I hit them with the new question: “What is it you were trying to do then?” Usually the answer is something like… I was just having fun, or so and so was chasing me, or whatever the case might be. But the point here is they had forgotten what they were supposed to be focusing on.
Now let’s take this scenario and turn it on ourselves. What if God was to say to me, “Tasha, why didn’t you do anything I asked you to do this week?” My answer might be something like, “I was just so busy, the kids had practice every night, Netflix released the next season of my favorite show… I wasn’t trying to be disobedient.”
Yes, but what was I trying to do?
Our time is always focused on something. Sometimes that something is out of our control, like if you get a flat tire and have to spend time changing it, but mostly we are responsible for how we spend our time.
We’re all given the same amount of time in a day, but not all of us have the same responsibilities. Some people are just going to be busier. What’s important is how we steward the time we are given. Spending time with our children and spouse, going to an appointment on time, and taking a bubble bath or watching Netflix to unwind can all be stewarding your time well.
People say to me all the time “I’m just not a planner.” I’m not saying you need to schedule a bubble bath. What I am saying: If you know what your responsibilities are, then you also know your margin. When you block off time for a work appointment or kids soccer practice, or when you plan and accomplish a task toward your weekly goal, you are creating margin for things that are fun and you won’t feel guilty about it.If you know what your responsibilities are, then you also know your margin. Click To Tweet
Why bring God into this? No, I’m not trying to take you on a guilt trip. As a christian I believe that my life is not my own. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 says “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”
Our whole life is stewardship.
So ultimately I should be considering what it is that God wants me to do with my life. I can’t tell you specifics, each of us has our own gifts and talents to steward and use for his glory, but there are life-long goals that each Christian is called to– glorify God, make disciples, love your neighbor –to name a few.
But what about short-term, mid-term, and long-term goals that fit within your life goals? I strongly recommend picking up What’s Best Next: How the Gospel Transforms the Way You Get Things Done by Matt Perman. It is both spiritual and practical.
There was a time not that long ago that I was not a planner. I just got tired of feeling like I was wasting my time. I’m not perfect at it, but now I’m able to look at my weekly planner and see the things I did get accomplished. I can look at my planner and stay focused on what I feel like I’m supposed to be doing with my life. I can look at my planner and say, “This is what I was trying to do.”
While I have you here…My new 2018 6-Month Scripture Coloring Planner just came out on May 15th! Not a download – an actual tangible product! If you want to be better about how you steward your time, you might like the planner!